Thoughts on Teen Pregnancy

I have a few thoughts on teen pregnancy.

My daughter Casey is pregnant. Yes.

But, does that mean it is the end of the world for her? That she is hellbound? That her baby is going to be born into being on Welfare its whole life. Does this mean that her wee one will also be a parent at the tender age of 16?

Well, let’s take the first question. Is it the end of the world? Nope. Not at all. Sure, she wants to be a nurse and this COULD hinder it. But, why should it? She has a support system here at home. I got the message from dh last night that he does not see me going back to work at all ( clapping) So, if Casey chooses to remain at home, she will have a free babysitter. What I mean by remaining at home is past the age of 18. I will watch her child while she is in school and at work. Yes, she has to work some. I highly doubt she will get support from the father of this baby. That is a whole other story, and one I probably will not get into here.

Next question: Is she hellbound? I do not believe she is. She has her own personal salvation testimony and she would be glad to give it! Sure she committed a sin, but so didn’t you when you did not give back the pen to the check out clerk at the grocery store. Oh, that was me, my bad sorry.
She has to and I am not sure if she has gone to our Father or not to ask for forgivness but she has asked of it from her dad and I. We have chosen to forgive her, since we also know that the Lord almost commands it does he not?
We love our daughter and we want the best for her.

Will she be on welfare the rest of her life? I hope not, none of us want our children to be on welfare. It is not a great system to be on. Casey does have a good head on her shoulders and with perseverance and faith she can accomplish her dream of becoming a nurse. Will it be easy? Nope. But, if she allows us to help her and follow our rules while living under our roof she should have no problems with getting her education.

Only time will tell her child will become a parent. Much to early to answer that question doncha’ think? God is awesome. We all have our own free will. And, we all make our own choices. But, that does not mean that Casey will stear her child wrong. She made the choice to have relations. God have her/us this baby to raise up. We will do our best. But we will fail.

I am happy for this baby to be coming into our lives.

 

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13 Weeks

Casey has reached the first milestone, the end of the first trimester. She has had some horrid back pain, and is forever falling asleep, mid-sentence sometimes. Except at night, she can not sleep at night and is awake most of the night. She also had some wicked nausea, but only got sick once. I am so jealous.

She has been pretty much miserable so far. I hope that it subsides soon for her. She was given a giftcard to Old Navy for a maternity outfit. She picked them out. I wanted her to get a skirt, but she choose pants.:( Something we are working on here is the heart attitude. We are a work in progress.

I also think my camera is going. It just no longer takes nice clear photo’s and it is driving me insane. Seriously insane. I have reset to factory settings to no avail.

So up on the I need it really soon wishlist is a new camera.

Casey finally felt well enough to hang outside with me to try and get a few shots.

It was really chilly out, and she was a bit cold. Hence the above stance.

But getting a smile out of her was not happening. Like I said, she is miserable with this pregnancy. I had happy pregnancies, where I felt great most of the time, even when I was throwing everything up. I think if she could be rid of the back pain, she would be much happier. I am trying to find a chiropractor that we can afford to take her to.

She is starting to get the pooch belly. Which we are excited for her about.

Do not get me wrong, I rather not be a grandma at this stage in my life. Nor do I want her to be a mama at this stage in her life. However, I KNOW God allows things to happen for the good. This baby has been a good thing for our family. It has brought us all back together. The Lord allowed this pregnancy to bring my husband and I back together on the same page.  We were at one point contemplating a separation. Neither really speaking of it, but it was there, hanging in the air.

However, like I said, we are back on the same page, working together to bring up our children under God. God is back to being number one in our family. For a while, we put electronics, ourselves, before Him. We did some stuff without praying. We did a lot without praying. Something we are really working on. We are so far from being where we want to be on our walk, but that is the thing, it is our walk. We have our own individual walk with Him, and then, Jamie and I have a walk together, and then we have a walk as a family. We are a work in progress.

Yes, Casey is 16 going on 17. She is going to be a mom. The dad and her are not an item. She is not getting married. He has really turned into a psychopath at least from what we can tell and have read online. She wants nothing to do with him. She intends to raise this child on her own. But, she really is not alone. She has her dad and I. She has her 3 brothers. She also has a wonderful, awesome, church family that will help her and us through this adventure. God has been good to us, despite of ourselves.

Emergency Rooms and an Update on Casey

What a difference one makes from another.

By the way, I totally love the one we seem to frequent the most. That is Sumner Regional in Gallatin, TN,

The other is in Springfield and that is where Casey goes for her OB thanks to the insurance and that Sumner does not do maternity.

So, today, when I picked her up from a friends house, she was having some cramping in her lowed abdomen and some lower back pain. We put a call into the office and it was left up to her if she wanted to drive the 45 minutes to the ER in Springfield. She decided to er on the side of caution. We went. They were ok, except the doctor did not, at all look at us in the eye. Which I found to be rude. The nurses were sweet. The ultrasound tech was beautiful inside and out it seems. She was so nice to Casey and to myself. Though she could not answer any questions, she did tell us that the baby is very active and had a heartbeat of 165. So, because of that information, we were pleased that the baby is doing very well. She also told us that the wee one is 5cm in length.

Wow.

She goes back in a couple of weeks to her OB, though I need to call the OB on Monday to see if she wants her seen sooner. I doubt it, but one can never be too sure.

Casey is no longer with the baby daddy. She decided she had had enough of him not wanting to be serious and man up so to speak. So, we are supporting her 100% in helping her support her child. She is doing school now and then once the wee one is born, she will have to get a job. The baby daddy is not going to be in the picture unless he chooses to be. We certainly are praying that he will step up, become a man and take care of his responsibilities, but at the moment, that is very doubtful. But we are praying for him.

God has been supplying our every need and it has been a joy in watching this all play out. Scary, but a joy. We count it ALL joy.

So, that is an update at the moment for our daughter.

It is not easy being a parent of a teen parent. Still too young to quite make decisions, yet old enough to make others. It is hard to figure out just where that line is. But with God’s grace, we are muddling our way through. We appreciate all the prayers and support that we have gotten so far. Keep up the prayers, they are certainly needed!

Help for Those Pregnant Teens

If you are pregnant and you do not know what to do.

Please please, click on these links.

All too often teen moms hide their pregnancies because they are in fear of the consequences.

Parents might kick them out,

They will be flamed by their peers.

Pushed into doing something they do not want to do such as abortion.

Please

Please Please

Please I beg you, do NOT get an abortion.

I will go into that in another post.

But please, there are better alternatives to having an abortion.

So click on one or all of these links.

Pregnant Teen Help

American Pregnancy Helpline

Teen Pregnancy

Teen Pregnancy Support Group

Teen Pregnancy Help

Please, I do not support everything on these sites. I definitely do not support abortion.

Or, leave a comment, that I will not publish, and your area and I will email you with a help in your area.

Teen Pregnancy

Since, I am going to be a parent of a teen mom, I decided I wanted to write, and will write more about Teen Pregnancy and Teen Parenting.

My daughter also is starting a blog if anyone wants to read it.

Since, this adventure started for our family, I have decided to do some research.

Let me begin, I was a teen mom. So, I guess history does repeat itself.

The good ol’s USA has the highest rate of teen pregnancy and teen parents than any other western industrialized nation.

Every year 750,00 girls will get pregnant. That is just about 1/3 of all teen girls.

2/3 of the pregnant teens will not graduate from high school.

The good news is that teen pregnancy rates are dropping and lower now than they were in the 90’s. But, it is still a problem.

73 percent of the teen girl population will have sex before they are 20 years old. To me, that is astonishing.

We need to lower that number. So way some how, even if it is already dropping. It needs to drop more.

One of the ways is to allow the teaching or morals in schools. Yes, God. God himself will help this issue.

Will teens continue, sure, unfortunately.

But we have to start somewhere.

 

 

 

~Credit~

http://www.pregnantteenhelp.org/