18 and Life

Is now just beginning for my daughter. Well, sorta. As a teen parent, her life as an adult began the day she gave birth to her daughter Jacklynn. But now as a legal adult, she can legally set out in this world to accomplish many a great thing. Or, she can choose to sit on behind and do nothing.

To be honest, I did not see her life come to this point. But, she has a strong will power. She can use that for a number of things. She can finish her getting her high school education by grabbing her GED and head off to a local college to get her degree in nursing, she can find a job and work till she can afford to move to an area that she rather go to school in, or just work. All of which are acceptable to me and her dad. What is not acceptable is not living for Christ.

Now to be honest and fair, Jamie and I have not been the model parents for someone to want to follow Christ. We have failed terribly. We have run the whole gamut of Christianity. We have not at all lived like Christians. We have been the Sunday only Christians, and we have pretended to be Christians in hoping it would stick. As parents, we have done a great disservice to Casey and her brothers. We never set a high standard to achieve. We did not make them read their bibles or even attend church. We were what the church calls a dead Christian. We are saved and I know that Casey is saved. I know she has a home in heaven.

I want to publicly apologize to my daughter.  I have ruined her life. I was not a great mother. I did not protect her from certain things and we allowed far too much of the world in our home. For that, I am so sorry Casey. To you and to your brothers. I know I have told that to them, but now I am telling the world that I am a bad mom.

Casey is 18 today.

She is still my princess. I can still see in my mind’s eye, Casey at 2 looking at me with her hands on her hips telling me, ” my name is NOT Casey, it is Princess.”  Casey said, she was the princess of the world. She was and is still the princess of my world. I would do anything to help her to overcome the stigma of being a teen mom. I would gladly take away any tears she might shed. I love her so very much. I know she can do so much in this life for Christ, and for her daughter. I pray daily for her to walk the right road, to not follow in my footsteps. To want better for herself and her daughter. I pray daily for a Godly young man to walk into Casey’s life.

I pray daily for her and I to become close. We do not have a close relationship and that I am afraid is my fault. I am more like my mom than I care to admit. My mom was not the nurturing type. She was happy to just sit in front and watch the tv. I am not a big tv watcher, but there are other things I have put in front of God and my children. All that has been ending and I am sorry that it has taken this long.

Ginger Barber Photography | Senior PhotoI totally monopolized this post about things that don’t really matter to anyone but myself. Today is Casey’s birthday. For dinner, we are eating fried chicken, mashed potato’s, flaky biscuits  and fruit of some sort. She gets to hang out for the last time of her life at our house and do nothing. See, the kids in our home, on their birthdays do not have to do anything. No chores, no cooking, no cleaning, no schoolwork and such. It is a good day for them.

If you think of it, pray for her! Pray that she will get on fire for God. Get on fire for being a good mama. Pray for her to do well with whatever she decides to do.

Dear Casey…

I love you more than you will ever know. You are my Princess and my firecracker. You can make me smile on the bleakest days. I love you!

 

 

Advertisements

Thoughts on Teen Pregnancy

I have a few thoughts on teen pregnancy.

My daughter Casey is pregnant. Yes.

But, does that mean it is the end of the world for her? That she is hellbound? That her baby is going to be born into being on Welfare its whole life. Does this mean that her wee one will also be a parent at the tender age of 16?

Well, let’s take the first question. Is it the end of the world? Nope. Not at all. Sure, she wants to be a nurse and this COULD hinder it. But, why should it? She has a support system here at home. I got the message from dh last night that he does not see me going back to work at all ( clapping) So, if Casey chooses to remain at home, she will have a free babysitter. What I mean by remaining at home is past the age of 18. I will watch her child while she is in school and at work. Yes, she has to work some. I highly doubt she will get support from the father of this baby. That is a whole other story, and one I probably will not get into here.

Next question: Is she hellbound? I do not believe she is. She has her own personal salvation testimony and she would be glad to give it! Sure she committed a sin, but so didn’t you when you did not give back the pen to the check out clerk at the grocery store. Oh, that was me, my bad sorry.
She has to and I am not sure if she has gone to our Father or not to ask for forgivness but she has asked of it from her dad and I. We have chosen to forgive her, since we also know that the Lord almost commands it does he not?
We love our daughter and we want the best for her.

Will she be on welfare the rest of her life? I hope not, none of us want our children to be on welfare. It is not a great system to be on. Casey does have a good head on her shoulders and with perseverance and faith she can accomplish her dream of becoming a nurse. Will it be easy? Nope. But, if she allows us to help her and follow our rules while living under our roof she should have no problems with getting her education.

Only time will tell her child will become a parent. Much to early to answer that question doncha’ think? God is awesome. We all have our own free will. And, we all make our own choices. But, that does not mean that Casey will stear her child wrong. She made the choice to have relations. God have her/us this baby to raise up. We will do our best. But we will fail.

I am happy for this baby to be coming into our lives.

 

Homeschooling~ Thanksgiving Week

The Homeschool Mother's Journal
In my life this week…

In my life, let’s see. Not a whole lot is going on. I updated the blog about my daughter who is pregnant. We went to a friends house for Thanksgiving. Went to the ER for said pregnant daughter.

No worries, all is fine with her and the wee one.

In our homeschool this week…

Pfft, not a whole lot. I think we may have done one complete day.

My favorite thing this week was…

Spending time with a friend from church. It is a new friend and we spent time with our families, getting to know one another.

What’s working/not working for us…

I think NOT having a boxed curriculum is not working for me, so I need to work on that.

Questions/thoughts I have…

If I am doing this thing called homeschool right. Are my children learning enough. Am I able to teach them all they need to know.

Things I’m working on…

Making maternity clothing for my daughter and working on gifts for the kids for Christmas.

I’m reading…

In the book of Psalms.

I’m cooking…

This week, I made a green bean casserole that was YUMMY. We also made fudge that did not turn out so well. Casey made her lasagna for Turkey day too.

I’m grateful for…

My Jesus, my Husband, and my Children.

I’m praying for…

My daughter and her baby, and for a car.

A photo, video, link, or quote to share…

What I have learned from my own experience is that the most important ingredients in a child’s education are curiosity, interest, imagination, and a sense of adventure of life.

-Eleanor Roosevelt

Don’t forget to take the time to head back over here and read about what else went on this week.

Emergency Rooms and an Update on Casey

What a difference one makes from another.

By the way, I totally love the one we seem to frequent the most. That is Sumner Regional in Gallatin, TN,

The other is in Springfield and that is where Casey goes for her OB thanks to the insurance and that Sumner does not do maternity.

So, today, when I picked her up from a friends house, she was having some cramping in her lowed abdomen and some lower back pain. We put a call into the office and it was left up to her if she wanted to drive the 45 minutes to the ER in Springfield. She decided to er on the side of caution. We went. They were ok, except the doctor did not, at all look at us in the eye. Which I found to be rude. The nurses were sweet. The ultrasound tech was beautiful inside and out it seems. She was so nice to Casey and to myself. Though she could not answer any questions, she did tell us that the baby is very active and had a heartbeat of 165. So, because of that information, we were pleased that the baby is doing very well. She also told us that the wee one is 5cm in length.

Wow.

She goes back in a couple of weeks to her OB, though I need to call the OB on Monday to see if she wants her seen sooner. I doubt it, but one can never be too sure.

Casey is no longer with the baby daddy. She decided she had had enough of him not wanting to be serious and man up so to speak. So, we are supporting her 100% in helping her support her child. She is doing school now and then once the wee one is born, she will have to get a job. The baby daddy is not going to be in the picture unless he chooses to be. We certainly are praying that he will step up, become a man and take care of his responsibilities, but at the moment, that is very doubtful. But we are praying for him.

God has been supplying our every need and it has been a joy in watching this all play out. Scary, but a joy. We count it ALL joy.

So, that is an update at the moment for our daughter.

It is not easy being a parent of a teen parent. Still too young to quite make decisions, yet old enough to make others. It is hard to figure out just where that line is. But with God’s grace, we are muddling our way through. We appreciate all the prayers and support that we have gotten so far. Keep up the prayers, they are certainly needed!